What Other Therapists Won’t Tell You (But I Will)
Written by Lisa Infante - Founder of Courage to Change Collective
Forget the Stuffy Therapy Stereotype
Therapy doesn’t have to be sitting across the room from someone, hands folded in your lap, with your therapist nodding approvingly while taking notes. Sure, that’s how it’s often portrayed - and I’ve been there myself - but it doesn’t have to be that stuffy or formal. That’s why I do therapy with a twist.
Therapy with a Twist: The Real Work Happens Here
We’re going to get some serious work done, but we’re going to do it with all the forehead slaps, the “aha” moments, the tears, the laughter, and the lessons along the way. Therapy doesn’t have to be an overly formal, detached process where you feel like you’re under a microscope. The real magic happens when you can be 100% yourself - no judgement, no need to censor yourself, just pure, raw honesty.
It's Okay to Get Uncomfortable - That’s Where the Growth Is
Let’s be real: it can be uncomfortable to face or admit certain things. Talking about them, acknowledging that they’re real - that’s tough. But when you’re with a therapist you really connect with, someone you can go deeper with, it makes all the difference. You should feel like you can completely be yourself, swear a little (or a lot, if that’s your personality), and just let it all out. Therapy isn’t about being prim and proper; it’s about doing the work that matters, in a space where you feel safe to say, “F**k, this is sh*t.”
Finding the Right Therapist: It’s About Connection
If you’re looking for a therapist and you don’t feel a connection with them, if you don’t feel like you can just go “blah” and spill it all out, then that’s not the therapist for you. Therapy should be a life-changing process that works for you. It’s about you, after all. Therapy can be fun, liberating, and genuinely transformative, but it only works if you feel comfortable enough to be your true self.
Make Therapy Work for You
Don’t settle for the old-school, stuffy idea of therapy if it doesn’t fit you. Find a therapist who gets you, who lets you be yourself, and who’s ready to dive into the real work with you. Because when you do, that’s when the magic happens.
Much love and be unapologetically you!
xx Lisa
FAQs
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Look for a therapist you can genuinely connect with - someone who makes you feel comfortable being yourself. It’s important that you feel safe enough to be open and honest, without worrying about being judged. Therapy works best when you can fully express yourself, so find someone who allows you to do just that.
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Yes, it’s completely normal to feel uncomfortable at times during therapy. Discussing deep, personal issues can be challenging, but that discomfort often leads to growth and healing. A good therapist will support you through these tough moments, helping you navigate them in a way that feels safe and manageable.
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Absolutely! While therapy involves doing serious work, it can also be a space for laughter, “aha” moments, and even some swearing if that’s your style. It’s about being real and getting to the heart of what’s going on in your life, and sometimes that includes having a bit of fun along the way.
